Author Of The Website
Ligita Jakučionytė
Author of the website “Thank You For Telling Me” Ligita Jakučionytė
At present, my professional work is built on two complementary pillars: supervision (professional relationship consulting) and coaching, as well as feedback skills training.
As a supervisor and coach, I use feedback to help people – especially leaders – understand themselves, learn, and grow; I help groups learn to trust and share information; and teams to collaborate. I am a member of the Lithuanian Association of Professional Relationship Consultants (LPSKA) and the chair of its board.
As a feedback teacher, I help people understand how the use of feedback changes their personal and professional lives, I share the knowledge and practical experience I have accumulated, write articles, and lead trainings.
If you’re interested and would like to purchase one or both books about feedback, please write to me at thankyou4tellingme@gmail.com
What does it mean?
“Thank You For Telling Me”
Do you remember a time when you saw yourself on film? Or heard a record of your voice? Try and remember. “Oh no… It can’t be… I don’t look like that… That’s not my voice…” Have you ever felt that way? Sadly, this is exactly how other people see us. The only person whose voice I cannot hear and whose expressions, body language, and actions I cannot see is me.
Unexpected information about yourself is always followed by greater or smaller shock. Or other powerful emotions. Or loss of balance. It takes time to return to your normal self. It takes time to think everything over. To avoid being defensive, that is, beginning to argue or withdraw, it is useful to say: “Thank you for telling me. Now I need some time to process this information.”
The most difficult task is finding the strength to look at yourself and ask: “What do you think about me? What kind of worker, colleague, neighbour, wife/husband, friend – or even mother/father am I?” After this first part – directing your thinking away from others and towards yourself– everything becomes easier. Promise!
Any kind of learning begins with learning to listen. To listen without becoming defensive, or criticising, or comparing. Simply listening. And showing respect. Focusing. Giving yourself time to absorb the information. And saying thank you. Thank you for telling me…